Curate the Home Experience and Energy you WANT: 5 Tips
If you know anything about me, I have intentionally decided to curate a life I love.
I grew up in Chicago. On the south side. We lived in three different sets of projects, (Robert Taylors, Washington Park, and Altgeld Gardens) each of which I resented more than the one before. There were 6 of us. 4 kids. 2 adults. And usually 3 bedrooms.
My sister and I shared a bed until I was about 16, then we got bunk beds. Nothing was ever mine — my money would mysteriously be missing when I woke up most mornings (my sister didn’t take it), I’d come home from school to see my mom (or sister)wearing my latest pair of jeans or shoes — which were usually hand-me-downs. But they were hand-me-downs for me!
So, I began to stay away from our house as long as humanly possible… at church, at school, with friends, at extra curricular programs, events or anywhere I could… home wasn’t safe. My parents wouldn’t really notice because they were grappling with their own ways of escaping.
I promised that when I got big enough to have my own home, I would make it special. It took a while, but here are some steps I took:
- Start with writing out the kind of experience you want to cultivate in your home. (Do that for 2–3 days before any major purchases)
- Add color and details to your writing. (What would you want to think, feel, and say about your home?)
- Move from writing to creating a vision board. (Pictures that represent you.)
- Decide the scent. (How your home smells makes a world of difference)
- Draft a budge and locate furniture that is connected to your vision & budget.
This process is iterative. There’s no set date or time to have it “done..” I mean, is it ever really done though?



Anyway, the absolute final thing I would offer here… no matter what… no matter how… HAVE FUN! Let joy overtake you in the process! Let yourself enjoy the PROCESS.