Letter to my 25 Year Old Self

Post 6/19/13

Originally Written: 6/16/2009

It’s Your 21st Birthday!!

Dear Miss 25 year old Mia Dunlap,

As I’m writing this letter to you I’m led to wonder whether your last name is still even Dunlap! Isn’t that something, I mean you could have very well found the man of your dreams and fallen in love by now and professed those beautiful vows! But if for one reason or another you all are not married I pray… yes I pray (close your eyes and start praying too! Lol) that the time is nearing! I mean, you’re one hell of a catch and somebody with some good sense had better recognized lol ok, enough about that prince, on to other matters.

                So, I can only imagine that you are living comfortably with a Masters under your belt and missing me! Hell even I miss me at 19 and 18. Please tell me you still have your body intact…if not please please make that your next two moth resolution! Lol. Don’t let go of that figure girl and that natural hair. People think I’m going thru a phase… but at 25 they’ll clearly see that I was addicted to self-discovery and I found something so unique, sometime untaming, but very precious in my natural hair! If you don’t sill have it, you mind cutting it off and doing it all over again for me? Please…I mean, you’re young and gorgeous! You can do it!

                Furthermore, don’t lose that flame. You’ve got one awesome personality! I know it’s true for you because it’s truly true for me! When and where I enter people can’t help but to turn and look…and I don’t blame them nor do I dislike them…if I were them I’d definitely look at me and try to figure out why is she so happy and peaceful and radiant and vibrant and sassy and confident. Too bad I don’t have the answer. Do you? Kisses to you Older Mia! I believe you are carrying the torch well. I can’t say it’s been easy, not even at 21, but I hope you’re a witness that it was worth it! Keep up the good work for me and you and Jasmin and Miles all the doubters and supporters and the all of the dreamers. It’s true Mia, To Whom Much is Given, Much is Definitely Required! And we knew for sure the God of your silent tears, the God of your bruises and patches, the God of your internships and achievements, the God of your big giving heart and of your forgiving spirit has invested very much into you my love! Face it, you’re somebody special. I have to admit something; I do not yearn to be you! I want to stay young and in college as long as possible girl!!

And what about those friends? Who are they? Where are they now?

7/3/2009 …. Hmmmm. Anyway, so [any] children yet?  Oh my…I’m excited to meet them I know you’ll be a phenomenal mother, esp. if you have or in the middle of a Masters. Urban Studies and Trauma right? Girl, Kanika told you along time ago that you have a serious calling on your life and you have to protect that. Everyone does not deserve the front seat of your life…you know that but I’m only here to remind you missy. By the way, have you had your heart broken yet? Who was this lucky guy who had the privilege of getting that close to your heart? Whatever you do…I caution you to not give up on love! Don’t! Speaking of love…What’s your relationship like with Perfect Love [I used to call God "Perfect Love"]these days? You may be a youth minister or something ? huh? That’s nice Mia. How’s your mom/dad? Be nice to them…give and speak to them with a very patient/open heart. I know you love them , but be very intentional about showing it. And Miles/Jasmin… Please continue to take them under your wings? Give to them abundance as you see fit and according to your ability. Mike D? What’s up with that guy these days… send him a letter reminding him of just how smart he is and that he must use his intelligence to help change the world. Hope you’re staying connected with everyone. Send thinking of you cards to some family members. I know you still love stationary!

Well lady can’t think of more to say…so I’m signing out…sending abundance of peace your way…I’m talking about that real peace when hell is living inside your mind. You’re one impressive individual and I am anxious and apprehensive meet you! You have a house yet or a condo? Oh, and please tell me you’re not in debt honey…management those funds! Love you much dear!

Take good care of yourself,



  • Allison Says

    Wow Mia that was phenomenal… I’m sort of inspired to now write a letter from my 25 year old self to my 30 year old self!

  • Nicee Says

    Oh Mia, I LOVE it!!! I know it’s been awhile since we’ve caught-up but I do hope you have achieved all that your 21-year-old self had hoped. I know you have done a great job at keeping up with your friends and letting them know you care. At least you have for me :) And even though my schedule is crazy crazy busy, I truly do appreciate your efforts to keep me engaged in all the amazing things that you are doing. This was/is a fabulous idea! In a way, it seems prophetic. I’m definitely gonna write myself a letter to 30-year-old Nicee, as I truly have some personal & business goals that I’d like to achieve by then. Writing the vision down definitely works. It gives you a sense of focus, I think. I remember writing a letter to God at 12 of what I wanted my husband to be like. And I swear to you, the moment he stepped into my life as my friend, since our introduction, I began to see those traits that I had written down when I was 12!!! I mean, verbatim!!! So much that I thought he was sent from the enemy to distract me! Lol. I would pray “Lord if this man ain’t from you, remove him!!” Lol. But I quickly learned that those traits were not for show- they were inherit in him. Makes me realize that The Lord actually did fashion him for me & I for him. And that The Lord truly does give us the desires of our heart when He is the driving force behind those desires; which is so evident in how He has so richly blessed you!
    Thanks for sharing, hun. I pray many blessing and abundance over you during year 25. You’re goin’ all the way baby!!!!

  • Walter Whitehead Says

    That. was. awesome. dot. com!!!!!

    so inspired to write to my future self.

  • Courtney King Says

    This is what all of should do. As we age our priorities and values shift and alter and reading the sentiments of our younger self would be greatly beneficial. You inspire me and I am honored to be connected to you. Keep up the phenomenal work.

  • Carissa Says

    Phenomenal Mia….I agree with Allison, makes me want to write a letter to my 30 year old me. Your words are so profound and I admire your drive. Drive that I have always saw and admired from even keeping up with reading your word. You are your biggest critique and I love that your you. Your an awesome person and I thank God I’m able to know you. Muah!!!

  • Robert Martinez Says

    As life goes u will find that special some and he will sweep u off your feet keep the faith and he will come never let go of your dreams for thy are yours always stay who you are never let any one change you.

  • Ashley Wells Says

    Simply beautiful Mia. This is very inspiring and gave me chills as well. Please continue to be the beautiful lively and confident woman you are. Now I’m off to write my own letter. Thank you!!

  • Barbara Ware Says

    Hello Baby Girl, you have encouraged me to write a letter to my 60 year old self!!! LOL. I love you very much and I am so proud of you. I expect nothing less than what you have done and yet is going to do. God gives the Vision to those whom he know will complete the work!!!!Keep him as the HEAD!!!!

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